MISS MELODY TRIGLOFF(The Easter Story)

Miss Melody Trigloff
(The Easter Story)

My darling Wife was pregnant and we were amazed God wanted to bless our family again and I am fine with it we are in a place where the typical things people do not to have kids was not an option and that is fine with me I realize based on my own life story that God loves his creation and if he created a life for us to share than he wanted us to share it, and we rejoiced in our own way (no I did not wrestle a gun out of my own hand I really was happy for the both of us. This child represented a starting over for me as well as our 4Th priceless treasure. there was nothing like telling Austin, Julia and little baby Tessa that we were having another baby Austin was so happy you see he wanted a brother so bad now maybe he would finally get one.


The Doctor was telling Michelle how she was looking OK and that it was going to be a much harder pregnancy this time because of how many she had already had and that her last baby was difficult. That was the least of her worries because she and I still had to tell the parents we had another one coming. For no deserved reason we were always concerned to tell the parents, neither of us wanted the scolding we never got.(yes imagine that)

We both thought people were going to think we were freaks with four kids. We already had some earth muffin yell at us for overpopulating the earth.But there was no way I was going to allow this time to be tarnished it was a new direction and a reason and purpose for us to be a team. Everything was cool until one day when we were looking for a barrel of dry corn for our corn Stove (don't ask) Michelle said very fearfully,"Something is wrong.".....more soon

Everything stopped,"What do you mean Honey?"I said with tremendous concern. ,"I need to go to the Doctor. Now! She kneeled to the ground in Pain.So I picked up My Wife and put her in the car and we went as quickly as we could to the Harrison lite in port orchard.Well I went in grabbed a wheel chair looked at all the goofballs in there with they're own problems let the nurse/cashier know about my Wife then I went out and picked up my Wife put her in the chair and hurriedly brought her in wheeled her up to the front just past the Senoritas and Senor's and the rest. when I got up there I was more detailed in my description and the Lady says oh we don't do that you need to take her to the Hospital. I was Pissed and Worried ran her back out to the car and put her in and since I wanted her to live we decided to go to Tacoma instead of Harrison in Bremerton (it was the only one at the time).

Miss Gentry said, "This is very poetic Bobby ! I know people will also read your blog too ! More ! More ! More!" (I may have solicited a comment from her wasn't it sweet though).

I remember pulling on to the Highway feeling like Michelle was going to lose her Child I was praying to God to please spare her this trauma she was such a tenderhearted Woman I did not think she could handle that(of course if you actually know Michelle you will find she is as strong willed as...well an OX).I was keeping one eye on my wife and one on the Highway not really knowing in anyway what I might be able to say to re-assure Miss Michelle so I just began to pray allowed that whatever Gods will for us today was that he would give us the strength to survive and if possible to spare the child inside her. (I Will always love Jesus and I hope you do not find my talking about him so freely an offense I will never point my finger at another person or judge anyone I know that I am probably the worst example of a good Christian boy but thankfully it is God I serve not some Man in a Church or people who claim falsely to be "good"...just saying I love you all please keep an open mind to me as I to you).Well we eventually made it to St. Jo's Hospital in Tacoma (which is where we've used a midwifery for one of our children's births.) Pulling into the Emergency Area I brought Michelle a wheelchair again and went in to the Hospital and they were excellent to my Wife they actually cared about us this day and I truly believe it was a Blessing for my Wife because she was very upset and needed peace soon Michelle has Hypoglycemia as it is and traumatic events seem to throw her out of whack and truly turn difficult times into nightmares but this day she was as strong as a Rock even when I knew she just wanted to crumble(she gave me strength too).after listening to her Belly it was not long until they sent us up to get an ultrasound, still not really giving us any reassurance and agreeing that she may be having a Miscarriage.

I suppose if I was smarter than I usually appear I could have told you that I was strong and faithful but the real truth is I was ready to die, my Wife had already demonstrated to me that I was not enough to bring her happiness and I also knew I did not have what it takes to reassure her in this time of distress well being heartbroken was no excuse to not be there for that girl I held her hand and went like a lamb to the slaughter to hear the horrible news. The technician was very cordial and almost jovial but I was so upset at the Callousness of this technician that I was ready to let her know about it nobody was going to be flippant in my Wife's time of distress, not while while I was around it was going to be time for a bit of Bobby slap down in a minute....when she said "It looks like they are fine she has just had a minor abruption. Wow I was so relieved it was only a minor ubar...."Wha? did you say they?". "Yes." she said,"they appear to be fine." "What the he...what do you mean by they?"I asked quite concerned. "Well did you not know?"she asked,"there are, one,two and three...three Baby's happy and O.K."
I said,"Uhm did you say,I mean it sounded like....but...but, Three?" she kind of laughed at me in a cruella deville kind of happy like laugh and said,"YeeeEEEeess there are three good luck Daddy, ah hahahahaha!!!"Well maybe she actually just said yes. but still I could not believe it and I realized though I wanted to be a strong and good example to my wife so I said "Wow baby I am sooo Happy we are going to have three more it is like our family just doubled...almost sometimes I forget ABOUT how many kids or what order because I have so many but let me tell you I will never forget the day I looked at my Wife and asked her,"should we get a triple bunk?".

Bobby Trigloff So now i interrupted the story with this comment,"listen maybe I am wrong but this is golden, but if only I think so ,I will not bother finishing."


Erika Hasegawa Johnson said,"ya gotta finish, I remember the day you told everyone you were expecting triplets!"


I replied with "Yay!!!Erika reads my story!! does Troy haha! ok more on the way."


Erika said, "of course I do, I don't think Troy does much of anything on FB."


Just so you know Troy is so lucky Erika aside from being one of my family's closest friends is like one of those women on Tech TV that don't exist in real life she loves STAR WARS and nice home theaters and like just about every other nerdy thing I liked. So not only that but she loved to babysit my kids so if I got home from work it was so easy to talk her in to watching Star Wars. I knew when she was a kid at my Church that one of the other kids there had better not let her go and Troy stepped up what a good Man he became too...OK back to the story.


Of course I was only filled with joy I know what is important and the day I am an old man dieing and remembering all of my amazing adventures (you probably don't even know a fraction of it Baby!) I will be surrounded by children and they re children( if nothing else in spirit) I am a rich man and I sure do pity any who have tried to steal my Treasure from me (it is not me who you will answer to.) I held her hand as she lie on the Hospital bed and stared into her beautiful eyes, she was trying to figure out if I was ready to freak out, we had just been through a horrible family trauma and in her pregnancy Hormone driven state Michelle was fearful that I was ready to give up of course I was not and( I can see through people far too well not to try to show her my devotion) looking into her eyes I said,"I love you We are going to have a Baby's!!!(I may have used other words but that is what I said).Getting the car and pulling it up to the front of the Hospital to pick up Michelle is something I have done so many times I bet I have the record. (The funny part is I love to have a cigar handy because they flip out thinking I am going to light it up on the way home in the car and smoke everyone out. I am not sure if Erika was watching the kids that day but I tell you what that girl made our lives so much easier over the years we could not have been blessed more to have her and her sister Katrina they were so willing to watch the kids any time we needed and befriended My Wife who really didn't have allot of strong friends in her life so anyways the Hasagawa girls were definitely a part of the family and I don't say that about just anyone.

Michelle and I have had this problem over the years we never have the guts to tell our parents that we are having a Baby it was hard we knew what it looks like people assume were Mormons or I am some evil Man Lording over this sweetheart and forcing her to be a Baby machine(sorry),but we truly had things in our lives that helped bring our lifestyle to this point and it was a Blessing not a curse. We just hated telling them even though it was not justified we felt judged and looked down upon but of course we were always supported and excepted by the family's it was our personal hangups that made us feel that way.

First was to tell my parents it was a bit easier to tell them (for me at least). Well my Mom at this point had recently found out that her Cancer may have returned so sadly it was the beginning of her last story too (on earth anyway) I sat in the old smoke smelling chair kinda looking at the floor and the walls (also cigarette smoky) and said we just wanted to tell you that Michelle is pregnant and they looked at me with kind of a tsk tsk expression on both of them (THE FUNNIEST THING IS MY DAD usually asks Michelle in his own funny yet rude and totally inappropriate manor you pregnant yet?..he didn't this day is that not odd?)...I pointed at Michelle like a 9 year old and said "She did it." it got a little chuckle and got me kicked by my Wife(worth it). the punch line was really in telling them the whole trip to the Hospital story that ended with "Three????!!!" from my exclaiming Mother. Next was Michelles Parents So we told them again in meek fashion (no Joke though) and once again they behaved like you would expect a loving caring family with support and Love. I did get to tell the Hospital story again to an equally amazed ,"Three!" from the other Mother named Anita(yes My Mother and mother in-Law are named Anita I hope if I ever meet My birth mother her name will be Anita...you know for the funny.) next was telling the people at my church.....


It was a normal Sunday except I had asked to make an announcement, the announcement you will see when I post the Miss Melody Video. I said,"Our Family has just become a mostly Female house because Michelle is going to have three Identical triplet GIRLS!!!!! Boy all of the lady's seemed giddy and Michelle received many Congratulations.and let me tell you she was happy it seemed during this time I truly believe she needed a big event like this to help lift her out of a depressing time for her it was like God used this to show her she was extremely special still and that no depressing thing can steal that(I know I am reaching but I believe it).

I suppose it is not so romantic to whine about things now so lets get back to the wonder and amazement of the next 8 months or so I made a little joke that Austin was feeling really out numbered. I also was bringing up the fact that my parents had given us a mini van what a blessing that was because our vehicles were kind of on the last leg and i was not ready financially to buy something better yet just paying the house was enough for us. But life go's on and so will the story I have some really good stuff so don't go away...



Kimi said, "great story, cant wait to read the rest....i didn't know both moms shared the same name....i always had a hard time telling my mom too no matter how old i was...lol..."


We had so many adventures when Michelle was pregnant with the triplets not only did we have to end the relationship we had with a very close relative on Michelle's side but we had found that this person who was trying to force her way into our family was actually secretively reporting us to Child Protective Services on completely unfounded and made up charges of abuse (she lived in Colorado and never really saw us to know anything). Now this is a weird twist to the tale but it is completely true see Michelle was also adopted by her Loving stepmother. As a child and in an extremely vain attempt to be diplomatic, we allowed her birth mother to have a small amount of contact with our family. I was truly just trying to make a way for some past trauma My Wife suffered as a child to finally be put to rest (it was my thought that there must be two sides to the story that maybe she wasn't aware of).


I was so wrong and it has plagued my mind ever since I encouraged her to reunite with her birth mother.I allowed this psycho back into Michelles life so I was determined to get rid of her. We filed for a restraining order and we won it Judge Phillips knew me and slapped a lifetime ban on Michelles birth mother from kitsap. Unfortunately she figured out that it can only be for 5 years and not for the whole county so the judge amended it at appeals and that was that. but before all the court stuff wehad to deal with C.P.S. Nazi's (that was how we saw them at the time).

The way we found out that C.P.S. was coming they left a business card on the door, we knew already how they operate they like to show up with a cop to make you think they have the right to come in your house but if you know me at all you know I am a patriot and pretty dang resistant to that kind of crap but still I was going to handle this as best I could so first of all I took my whole family to Tom Bushnells home who is one of my best friends and he just happened to have a place designed for pregnant Women to stay if they needed a safe environment. The Bushnell family has only existed to help everyone they knew they publish a magazine nationally to help parents of special needs children and they have helped an innumerable amount of troubled Women in distressful times. Well at this time it was my Wife not only did Tom put me in contact with a Lawyer who lived his life suing C.P.S. but his Wife and Family took care of my family (even though it was a distressful time for them. see they were selling they're stuff and moving to the middle of nowhere (actually slightly to the left of it...Idaho). I was truly worried about C.P.S. coming see we spank our children as a form of discipline and though it is perfectly legal and I knew the exact wording behind the Law we knew that C.P.S. considered corpal punishment abuse on top of that we Homeschooling our children and they love that too. as soon as the C.P.S. person showed up at my door with a cop I handed her the phone with a Lawyer on it she knew his name he had just got done winning some case against them in Olympia after talking to him I volunteered to let her speak to my kids and she showed me the stack of complaints against us and i explained that that lady has only met our family twice and she makes these complaints from Colorado. anyways when it was all over they apologised and said they would never bother us again. it was some time after that that we went to court for the restraining order in fact it was long after the Triplets were born.


I remember Michelle getting so Big that you could see the little Baby girls hands and feet pushing against Mommas belly it was so uncomfortable for her. So I suggested a Massage but Michelle thought it was not safe but later she found someone who told her how awesome she would think it is ....and she did it made me feel like a pretty cool husband when Michelle expressed her relief ... that she felt after a nice massage. I was very concerned at all times about Michelles condition you see the Nurses and the Doc's said Michelle may need to go on full bed rest at some point fortunately for us Michelle has an IRON will and she did not need to go on bed rest until the last month. Michelle was a pretty strong Woman in the face of such a large burden of three new mouths and an undying faith in the Lord.Her witness inspired me I just loved that Michelle could see no other path than to serve the King no matter what the adversity. Some of those traits were what My Wife thought of me but I never lived up to her standard.

one day Austin pulled me aside and asked me "Why is it that Momma was only having Girls and no more Boys?" and I responded with ,"Son I know you are lonely for a boy to play with I also had no brother my age to play with but you have something real special Son." "What is that?" Austin asked a little puzzled I said,"You are going to have the chance to be the hero to 6 of the most beautiful girls on the planet...and those Girls are all going to have beautiful friends and those friends are going to Love their good friends older brother so even though you want a brother, You cherish and be a hero to those wonderful sisters.He always has.


well lots more happened I began driving a Cab to make money when I wasn't at the Good Guys sellin Stereo's, (They begged me to come back to them from Circuit city) I was really glad to leave Circuit City because when Michelle and I had our first marital Traumas I worked there and that place reminded me too much about the past I guess. I made some really cool foam things so Michelle could try to sleep on her tummy, and even though I felt pretty alone I truly had a blessing from God all around my family.



I remember that day very well I got a call Michelle is in the Hospital you need to go I had to call the Cab people to let them know I left the cab at the Bushnells (that was the last time I drove for them) I got to the Hospital and Michelle was already in the delivery I a=came in to a room filled to the brim with Doctors it was the first time identical triplets had been born at marybridge and I guess it was a big big deal Michelle had an ultrasound going the whole time and she was ready to go it happened do fast that she had them naturally even though with the triplets they planned a "c section". Now if you know the polotics behind it they always want to do a "c section" over a vaginal birth but recovery time is so hard after surgery I recommend not doing surgery if it is possible.


All three came out it was fast compared to some Labors I could have missed it if I wasn't fast getting there. They were each under 3 pounds and had to stay in the Hospital it was torment to be without the Babies Michelle stayed as well so I was pretty alone I could only go after work and stay for a limited time. Michelle was so in love with her babies it was beautiful to see her smile.


One night a terrible thing happened the nurses who we instructed not to give any of the babies a milk based formula because all f our children and my wife were lactose intolerant thought they knew better than us after all they get told alot I am sure, but still the instructions were to wake Momma anytime you run low on breastmilk they decided to let Momma sleep. All three of our little babies became horribly sick with intestine issues unfortunately wonderful miss Melody needed surgery they took out a section of her intestine but appeared to be ok after that. we were able to bring home Nadia and Tae first miss Melody needed more time. it was a little after this my first daughter Julia got sick with asthema like symptoms and ended up in the same Hospital she was miserable they poked her and made her lay in bed she was very resistant. one thing I did to help her was convince two guys in Bob and Larry suits to come to the Hospital to visit my daughter it was soooo cool "Bob the Tomato and Larry the Cucumber in the Hospital was a huge hit for all the children in there I cry even now remembering how sweet it was. and those guys from deightmans bookstore had no reasont to do it other than to be nice to some people they never met before.


Not long after Miss Melody came home sadly within two weeks she stopped breathing. I remember pulling into my driveway to see fire truck and ambulance lights flashing neighbors looking and my Wife cumpled on the floor with people consoling her the ambulance rushed my daughter to the Hospital Michelle and I followed unfortnately she died that night.I carried her to the ambulance that they took her to coroner in that was the last time I held her...I miss her so. I had more but i will just say I go to see her grave every Easter morning I know one day we will see her in heaven with the Lord and every tear will be wiped away....


P.S. My mother saw the Baby's before she died and she accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior I am so thankful that I had a Mother who didnt really have to raise me she chose me adopted and raised me now she is with Miss Melody waiting as are we for that day of the Lord.